You are ‘in love’ and you see your partner as being “the One”.
Later on, reality kicks in and you look realistically to your partner and you notice: “this is a 0,65 or a 0,7 at the most!”…
And then you decide to round the motherfucker up!
By the way. This is not ‘a case for monogamy’ at all (Dan is the creator of the word ‘Monogamish’). It is a case for the 3rd angle of Sternberg’s Love triangle: commitment.
Relationship-work is sometimes remembering who you did see when you looked through your rose-coloured glasses of the pretty-pink-psychosis of infatuation… and trying to help your partner to be that person as much as possible… knowing that it is not fully possible and forgiving each other that the other is not the same as the other you dreamt up.
<3 <3 <3